Anne, I just wrote about lessening regrets/guilt, with a process after my story.. If you have time you are welcome to see the article. I'm sorry to hear it hurt you so much, not getting your grandfather Grist the gentian while he was alive. Your response to Dennett holds wisdom. You honored your relatives/reembered them most of the time. Of course, you couldn't know when he'd go and you were very busy with athletic things, too, and were a teen!

. I believe that you were aware when you felt him looking at you from heaven. He probably has great memories of you, and loved the gentian on his grave. Who could want more than gentian on their grave? Thanks for sharing the sweet photos and story of your family. You sound like you were a very "good" girl and are amazing now in gratitude for adventures you initiate.. I believe Gristat's very proud of you. Sorry if I've overstepped in getting into your experence..